We've been married for almost eight years (8 in May), and have had plenty of fun times in the bedroom if you know what I mean but still no kids--which of course our parents have noticed.
On main problem stems from my husband's cancer history (he had it twice once at 15 again at 25 but is all clear now). However, this has made it a little tricky for us to have kids as he has no extra "boys" (as I call them) to help with the process.
In the past couple years, as we started realized we were over 30, the desire to have children has grown but we are stumped with all these dilemmas. It seems it's just much harder than I ever thought it would be to just have a kid. While some people seem to pop them out like crazy here we are with so many obstacles.
First we looked at adoption which is a great option and that we really want to pursue. Initial cost about $1,500 for home inspections and initial paperwork, then a minimum of $10-12,000 for domestic and lots more for international. However, some countries won't even consider us because we have medical history.
More recently we thought why not try artificial insemination through a donor bank.WOW. I was completely against it at first -thinking how weird it would be to have another man's baby even it was all through medical procedures. But the more we talked about it it made sense. At least the child would have part of my genes which is cool. Plus the cost of trying at least three months is less than adoption. If it all worked... Course it's a big IF.
And that's where we are now. We're in the middle of this process of doing IUI. Last night we went "shopping" for donors and that was very weird. We did purchase yet but need to very soon.
So this is my first official blog post on us maybe having a baby. Why am I blogging? Probably one for me and two for anyone who might also be going through this journey as it is a weird and awkward thing. In the midst of being filled with hopefulness I find I'm also filled with a sense of weirdness with the main thought "What is going on here!?"
